Category: fatgirlsguidetodating

Uh. Okay.

I got bored the other week and decided to go back to revisit the cesspool of SKOUT.

Maybe I’m old fashioned but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a bit of banter (and given my profile said I was a serial killer you’d expect some response to that). And I was pretty turned off by his reaction as well as the wanting to be told his looks are good and the fact it took him just over 20 minutes to ask for sex. I unmatched then. Admittedly I use tinder to have some cool chats or find some fuckboys to troll but still. Ugh.

Probably the worst online dating interaction I’ve had. A year ago today. 🤢

Blast from the past. 3 years ago.

Ah interesting article.

I do rather love some of her descriptions such as describing online dating as “a lawless, swampish hellscape… [filled with] the sludge of orchestrated meet-suits.” Her descriptions of the 7 types of heterosexual cisgendered men were bang on too.

I mean who *hasn’t* seen a shitload of the gym guys online? And their copious amounts of gym selfies just to prove the fact that they are indeed gym junkies. They are the ones I avoid like the plague as I don’t think I have met a single one of these men who would be okay with going on a date, let alone sleeping with or having a relationship with a bigger girl. I find way too often they include something in their bio like “must have full body shots” or “must be into healthy living” (because yes bigger girls cannot possibly be healthy in any way?). My favourite was the one who said if you can’t do 10 push-ups don’t contact me.

And do not even get me started on the drainer who’s lists of what his match must and must not like/do/have. Interestingly they find no irony in the fact that they do not expect us to have the same lists. I recall one man who told me, and I’m paraphrasing here as I cannot recall his exact words, that as a bigger girl I did not have the right to a list or to be at all picky. I don’t think I’m particularly picky: being a decent man, loyal, funny and caring is hardly picky surely?

Of all the 7 terms listed in this article Jekylling is something I’m far too familiar with. If you are a regular reader of my blog you’d see all too often in the screenshots of the various dating apps when I turn down a man- after they’ve been a total wanker usually- they get shitty, tell me to get fucked, or say something like I didn’t want you anyway or you couldn’t handle me anyway.

Being Elsa’d is a common thing from what I hear from my friends too.

And tinder is literally crawling with dogfishers.